“Are you going to medicate him?” “I would never medicate my child.” “No way will I give him medications for this, my son is not going to be a money maker for big pharma companies.” “ADHD meds are over-used and over-rated.” “You know there are other ways-natural ways- you can manage ADHD, right?
When Nicholas was diagnosed with ADHD both his pediatrician and his psychologist informed us of our options concerning medications. At the time, this was not the route I wanted to go. Never once did they push them on me or him.They simply presented me with some facts and said that if there ever came a time I’d want to explore this option to let them know.
Over the last few months we have tried to deal with this ADHD with a wide range of natural remedies- oils, changes in diet, changing the environment he does school in, giving him short breaks between lessons, etc. While we did see a little change we never really saw a significant one.
For about two or three months now I have watched my sweet boy try so hard to hold himself together in certain situation. I have watched as he’s grown more and more frustrated with himself for his lack of impulse control, his lack of being able to focus, and his emotional meltdowns. He would try so so hard but he would end up getting so frustrated it would get to the point, due to his lack of impulse control, that he would scream at me, hit and kick me or our walls, and even hurt himself. When he would reach this level, there was no calming him down. I would have to put him in a room by himself and just let him scream. Once he calmed down I would talk with him. Every single time I talked with him he would be incredibly upset with himself for his actions. I would see the hurt in his eyes knowing he did what he did.
I began talking to his doctors and even two family members who raised an ADHD child. They all told me this behavior was relatively normal for a kid with ADHD due to their lack of impulse control and frustration levels. I asked all four of them point blank, “Would meds help him?” They all replied, “Absolutely.”
Over the next few days, I watched my sweet little boy closely. I watched him struggle to focus in school, I watched him struggle to control himself, and I watched him act out in frustration when he could no longer contain himself.
Then one day, I made a call I never thought I’d make….I was ready to try meds. Wait?!? What?!? What on earth am I saying? Meds? I’ve listened to all the comments telling me not to do this. I’ve looked at the pros and cons. I’ve heard all the voices screaming loudly in my head pulling me this way and that. However, I began to wonder if they may just help my son. I had to wonder if they may help restore some peace to our home. I had to wonder if they could help my little boy feel like he’s not constantly failing.
It’s been over a week since I made that call and I’ve cried more times than I can count. I’ve been an emotional wreck. The night before we began this new path, I literally laid on my bedroom floor sobbing while my husband held me in his arms. I still struggle with wondering if this is the right choice. I know this isn’t the route I wanted to go but at this point, if there’s a chance they can help my buddy boo, I’ll take it.
I know many will not agree with my choice in this and, well, that’s okay. People are entitled to their opinions. However, until someone sits and watches their child hurt themselves out of frustration, I don’t think they will ever be able to understand why I have made this decision.